Survey says…

I was recently turned on to a brilliant and gifted young woman by the name of Viola Voltairine, an independent filmmaker who’s current project is adapting the book “Finding Love through Female Domination” to the big screen.

Amongst her many other projects, she also maintains a YouTube channel where she has posted a series of original podcasts entitled Obedient Love which are mix of incredibly hot women’s fantasy pieces as well as very thought provoking, insightful interviews and talks on modern women’s sexuality.

I am auditing her course for male submissives and as part of her recommended course work, took the following tests as part of helping me refine/define my core values and self. I found them not only interesting, but spot on (meaning they confirmed what I already believed about myself).

So for those of you who are into graphs, numbers, and… graphs… here is what I look like!

First the classic BDSM test –

== Results from bdsmtest.org ==

Next, Psychology Today’s opinion of me:

The Visual DNA Test:

The Hmanmetrics Test:

Political Compass Test:

Political Compass Test (The red dot in the graph below is me. Right of Ghandi, slightly left of Bernie Sanders and Nelson Mandela. Go figure!)

Relationship Attachment Style Test:

Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages Analysis of me:

Tho not a test, in Diana Vera’s 9 degrees of submission I am currently a category 8:

Nine Degrees of Submission by Diane Vera

© Copyright 1984, 1988 by Diane Vera. All rights reserved.

1. The Outright Non-submissive Masochist or Kinky Sensualist: Not into servitude, humiliation, or giving up control; just pain and/or spiced up sensuality, on the masochist’s own terms, and for the masochist’s DIRECT pleasure (i.e. being turned on solely or mainly by one’s own bodily sensations, rather than being turned on by being “used” to gratify one’s partner’s sadism).
2. Pseudo-Submissive Non-Slave: Not into even PLAYING “slave”, but into other “submissive” role-playing, e.g. schoolteacher scenes, infantilism, “forced” transvestism. Usually into humiliation, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the scene to a large degree.
3. Pseudo-Submissive PLAY Slave: Likes to play at being a slave; likes to FEEL subservient; may in some cases like to FEEL that one is being “used” to gratify one’s partner’s sadism; and may even really serve the dominant in some ways, but only on the “slave’s” own terms. Dictates the scene to a large degree; often fetishistic (e.g. foot worshippers).
4. True Submissive Non-Slave: Really gives up control (though only temporarily, and within agreed-upon limits), but gets his/her main satisfaction from aspects of submission OTHER THAN serving or being used by the dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up responsibility. Doesn’t dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seeks mainly his/her own DIRECT pleasure (rather than getting one’s pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant).
5. True Submissive PLAY Slave: Really gives up control (though only temporarily; only during brief “scenes” and within limits) and gets her/his main satisfaction from serving and being used by the dominant –but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. (May or may not be into pain, but if so, is turned on by pain INDIRECTLY, i.e. enjoys being the object of one’s partner’s sadism, on which the submissive places very few requirements or restrictions.)
6. Uncommitted Short-Term but More-Than-Play Semi-Slave: Really gives up control (though usually within limits); wants to serve and be used by the dominant; wants to provide PRACTICAL/NONEROTIC as well as fun/erotic services; but only when the “slave” is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of the agreed-upon several days). May or may not have a long-term relationship with one’s Mistress, but either way, the “slave” has the final say over WHEN she/he will serve.
7. Part-Time Consensual-But-REAL Slave: Has an ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship and regards oneself as the Mistress’s “property” at all times. Wants to obey and please her in all aspects of life –practical/nonerotic as well as fun/erotic. Devotes most of one’s time to other commitments (e.g. job), but the Mistress has first pick of the slave’s free time.
8. Full-Time Live-In Consensual Slave: Within no more than a few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards herself/himself as existing solely for the Mistress’s use, pleasure, and well-being. The slave in return expects to be treated as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of a traditional housewife, except that within the S/M world, the slave’s position is more likely to be fully consensual, especially if the slave is male (since men certainly aren’t socially pressured into this kind of lifestyle). Within the S/M world, a full-time “slave” arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional marriage.
9. Consensual Total Slave with No Limits: A common fantasy ideal which probably doesn’t exist in real life (except in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the “consent” is induced by brainwashing and/or social or economic pressures, and hence isn’t fully consensual). A few S/M purists will insist that you aren’t really a slave unless you’re willing to do absolutely ANYTHING for your Mistress, with no limits at all. I’ve met a few people who claimed to be no-limits slaves, but in all cases I had reason to doubt the claim.

The above list isn’t intended as a rigid classification. Most submissives don’t fall neatly into one of my categories; there are still further shades in between. (For example, a live-in slave with an outside paying job would be category 7 1/2.) Also, the same submissive may attain different degrees of submission with different dominants. My list is intended simply to show the wide range of different possible meanings of the words “submissive” and “slave”